Blog #7
October 22, 2009
So far, out of all the sections we have worked on, this one has impacted me the most. Growing up, my family structure was nowhere near traditional. My mother worked and my stepfather took care of the kids and the cooking. I think having grown up this way, has helped me to desire a less than traditional family lifestyle when I have children in the future. But lately, my life has taken an interesting turn, I am currently not working but just taking classes while my boyfriend and roommate (another guy), work full-time. I have found myself cooking, cleaning, doing laundry for everyone and tackling my daily studying. The part that surprises me the most is how much I actually enjoy taking care of a household. I know that I do not have children right now and it’s more like I am picking up after grown men, but it’s the aspect of taking care of people that really makes me feel good. I would someday like to have a family and I am really starting to get excited about the prospect. But getting married still kind of scares me, I guess I am afraid of losing myself. I know that this does not have to happen and I know that my current boyfriend would do his best to support me in everything I want to pursue. So maybe this is an irrational fear. After watching my mother go through two marriages that she put every part of herself into only to have them both cheat on her, I am less than thrilled about putting myself through that. This is why I am more than happy just living the life we have together now, working together to better ourselves as individuals. If someday we chose to make it official, fine. But if not, fine too. I am so happy to live in a day and age that I can make this decision. With the rate of divorce constantly on the rise, I would rather not be a statistic and have to go through the emotional pain and financial strain of a divorce. Maybe I am cynical, but it just makes sense to me.
